"I can't...""They'd never allow it..."Given that you're always inescapably in a story or interpretation of one kind or another about what's happening...And given that the actions that are available to you are those that are coherent with the interpretation you're in the midst of...And given that many coherent interpretations of any event or sequence of events are possible, including many that might not yet have occurred to you...... surely what to work on most urgently and deliberately - when you're stuck, or in difficulty, or suffering, or causing any of these to others - is finding a new interpretation of events...... so that new actions - especially those that lessen difficulties for everyone - become available to you.