On art and seeing

Art does not reproduce the visible;rather, it makes visible.

- Paul Klee, 1920 -

Surely this, too, is the responsibility of good leadership: making visible that which we had no way of seeing before.

Just one excellent reason to engage seriously with art in its many forms - painting, sculpture, music, poetry, writing - so that we have eyes to see beyond our habits, and beyond our own horizons.

And so that we develop the capacity to discover and disclose new worlds of possibility for one another.

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Want to see more Klee? There's a wonderful exhibition of his work at Tate Modern in London until March 2014.

Music to return us to ourselves

Finding practices that recall us to ourselves - so that even the humdrum and ordinary can be imbued with some sense of wonder and aliveness - is something of an art that we each have to discover for ourselves.I wrote a little about this yesterday.Have you considered how music could be part of this for you?Let's distinguish for a moment between music that's designed to distract - music for the 'background', jingles and muzak and much that's still heard on commercial radio stations - and music that is courageous enough to express the heart of human experience in a true and honest way.This second category includes music of all types and genres, of course. But, for today, perhaps you'll consider listening to just one piece: the first section (on a CD or download, the first track) of Brahms' Deutsche Requiema 'humanist' requiem written in response to the death of Brahms' mother and of a close friend. It's widely available to download and a first listen will take no more than ten minutes of your time.Even if you're not familiar with choral music, you might hear within the sound and texture of Brahms' work a passionate commitment to living. He's beautifully captured the sense of awe and amazement that comes from understanding our unlikely place in this most unlikely of worlds, and from knowing that our time in it is finite. This is music, written from a deep understanding of death, that can bring us searingly and beautifully into engagement with life.And when you've finished with Brahms himself, give yourself half an hour to listen to the amazing episode of BBC Radio's Soul Music (free on iTunes here, or from the BBC website here) filled with stories of how Brahms' Requiem has played a pivotal role in people's lives.Of course, you'll need to find your own music or other art form that can wake you up to your life when you forget. Today I wanted to share with you one of mine, in the hope it might be strong enough to be of some use.

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Remembering ourselves

Sometimes, in the midst of our busyness and our fixation on having things work out just the way we want them, we forget that we're alive.This forgetfulness, it seems to me, is an inevitable part of our human condition. I like very much Martin Heidegger's phrase for this - that we get 'scattered into everydayness'. In our everyday coping with all that comes our way, we go to sleep to ourselves and what we're really up to in our lives.When our forgetfulness goes on for too long, and if we don't take steps to remember our aliveness, it starts to colour everything we're doing. Workplaces in which people have forgotten they're alive become places that pursue profit or targets with no sense of what they're for. Families who have forgotten they're alive lose sight of the preciousness and sacredness of the relationships between their members. There is always the washing-up to do, of course, but it can be a humdrum task to be endured or, when we're awake to what being in a family is for, an expression of a much bigger commitment to the care of one another and the life that we share.All of this is why it is vital that we have practices for remembering ourselves - practices that connect us to one another, to our aliveness, and to our relationship with all of life. Many of us have no such practices and those that we do have to deal with our scatteredness serve to numb us rather than bring us more fully to life.One of the reasons this is difficult for many of us is that as we've pursued individualism we've abandoned so many of the shared rituals that come from being part of community: singing together; retelling shared stories, especially the founding myths of our families or culture; eating together; turning towards one another in appreciation and recognition. And we've been sold the line that entertainment will do all of this for us, but it mostly can't reach deeply enough into our lives or into the lives of the people around us to wake us up to ourselves.Writing is, for me, a powerful experience of self-remembering - a way in which I catch on to my aliveness. And that you are reading is part of it - though we may never have met we're bound, you and I, for a moment. Reading - novels, poetry, philosophy, science. Walking too. Music. Meditation. Art. But nothing is as powerful a force for my own self-remembering as the web of Jewish practice that is woven through my life and which binds me in time, in place, and in a community. It has very little if anything to do with belief, and very much to do with what I've been talking about here - practices that remind me again and again of the feeling of being alive and connected to others in a vast universe of which I am, we are, a part.Please understand that I'm not making an argument here for anyone to take up the forms of self-remembering that I've found so life-giving. But I am arguing for taking self-remembering seriously - that discovering and taking up practices that bring us to life again and again is foundational to a life well lived and good work well done.Otherwise we're just sleep-walking through.

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When we do the running for others

If you're avoiding fear, shame or anxiety - as many of us are without realising it - you may also be avoiding, unbidden, on behalf of others.Your insistence that others participate in your

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might just turn out to be your way of ensuring your colleagues, your team or your family don't have to experience what it is that you never want to experience.I'm bringing this up because I think it's a topic we could all do with observing in ourselves.Running away, and denying that we're running, constrains us enormously. And our unknowing projection of it onto others profoundly constrains their freedom too. Whole organisations have been constructed on meeting the avoidance needs of their founders and leaders, at huge cost to everyone.As we gradually free ourselves from this compulsion, we each earn a much better chance of doing what it is that we actually came here to do.

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Walking

20140116-173303.jpgI have spent the last two days walking, alone, in silence. Among ancient trees, by water, away from interruptions, and moving, I am tethering myself to my life.Everything is different for me when I walk. My thoughts, my moods, my experience of myself and my body. I'm reminded of my place in a living world that is much bigger than I am.Too often, I forget this.It struck me as I walked how few of us take restorative practices like this seriously. "I'm too busy" we say. "People need me." "I couldn't possibly stop." In the world of many organisations we have turned this orientation into an unquestionable truth for everyone, pushing ourselves and others harder and harder, convinced that if we never stop we will eventually get what we long for.In our endless quest for productivity, for efficiency, and for more stuff we've convinced ourselves that we are machines for doing and machines for consuming.And because of this, we're asking ourselves the wrong question. We've lost sight of what it is that is the source of all of our actions, hopes and possibilities. And of our productivity.Instead of "how can I go faster?" we ought to be responding to "how can I be more alive?". And understanding that everything we care about - everything - will flow from that.

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Following through

My friend and colleague Lizzie Prior cycled in October from Lands End to John O'Groats - one end of this island to the other. A thousand miles in twelve days. Along the way, when she was able, she kept a diary of her insights and experiences.I have been thinking often, in recent weeks, about what it takes to commit to something over the long term, particularly if it's a project that is important but will entail hardship or discomfort as well as joy and fulfilment. Lizzie has written wonderfully about what she learned on this subject from her cycling.I'm reproducing her whole post below.

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Take your place - you're more likely to succeed if everyone knows where you stand. They know where they stand too.Follow for as long as you need to - and lead when the wind takes you. The humility of following is a quality you need as a leader. Take advantage of those who lead. Benefit from the slipstream.Always assume everyone is doing their best.Faith is real, it's the perfect match for fear.Run with the pack you want to be part of even if you don't feel ready and you'll be enveloped. It's how humans work. Physically behaving like what you want to become before you've made it is a great experiment.When it feels uncomfortable, get over yourself. Don't let the super ego take you out of what you want to be in.Know that who you really are is far more capable and resourceful than you can understand.Let your environment become you somehow - join with the landscape, be the path, embody the journey. And keep pedalling in the direction you know you want to go. There may be walls to pass through but if you keep going they will surely pass.The ups and downs you can see in the distance are never the same as what you have perceived them to be. When you get there they look totally different. And something else is required than what you thought.The stuff you have and use has a huge impact on you, as does what you put in your body.When you're in for the long haul, be generous to yourself and resist being a slave to comparison and competition. Self compassion and kindness are enduring and necessary for your well being.Find a mantra, a saying, a practise to remind you of your intention to carry you through the difficulties. At times you won't be able to feel the point, so you'll need to have a powerful way of reminding yourself of your point, the meaning and the path you're on.Never underestimate the power of being connected to others on the path who get you, who make up your community and who laugh with you through the challenges. The true meaning of camaraderie.
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You can read more of Lizzie's work on her Sacred Rebellion blog.

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Running away

How many of your decisions and plans are attempts to avoid one of three primal emotions - fear, anger or shame?How much of your way of relating to others is part of the same strategy?And perhaps even what you call your 'leadership style'?We often kid ourselves that we're exercising rational, conscious choice in each of these, when in fact we're running as hard as we can from experiences we never wish to have again.And how different is a life lived or work done on the run, from a life lived or work done out of love?

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Changing habits

Changing a habit, even if it's something that really matters to you, is not as easy as some people would have us believe.I'm sure you'll have found this out already.One reason is that our bodies have momentum. We settle into repeated patterns of action because of the way they make us feel. We're so used to being numbed or enlivened by our habits that the simple declaration "This habit and I are done with one another" is rarely sufficient.If you want to change a habit, you'll need to orient towards yourself with great kindness and great persistence.You'll need to practice, taking up new habits that orient the repeated patterns of your body in new directions.You'll need to commit to dusting yourself off each time you fall out of your cycle of practice, beginning again even if this happens many times.And, mostly, you'll need great patience.I loved this, from Peter Pruyn, paraphrasing Mark Twain:

An old habit is a lot like a cow stuck on the second floor landing: you can’t throw it out the bedroom window; you have to coax it down the stairs and out the front door... one step at a time.

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What you're not

It's so easy to identify yourself with your circumstances, and to have your sense of your own possibility shaped by them.But it's important to remember that while you will always find yourself in, or subject to, particular circumstances, they are not you. They never were. They never will be.You are not your failure or your difficulty, your pain or your illness, your frustration or your longing, your debt or your confusion, your hopelessness or your fear or your certainty that you are stuck.And, equally, you are not your success. You are neither your status nor your privilege, your bank balance nor the string of letters after your name. You are not your fame, your salary, the size of your house, the number of 'likes' you have.Every time you think you are your circumstances, whether 'good' or 'bad', you diminish yourself.So who are you if you are not any of these?Can we ever find the words that will do justice to this question?For today, I think Khalil Gibran's response, from The Prophet, is a very good place to start:

"You are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself".

Nothing more. And, certainly, nothing less.

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