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Hello everyone, I've been in deep internal reflection over the past days, following a conversation this week with my peer Supervision group. Many will know, I'm a huge fan of Supervision and find it an enormous support in my work. I'm often asked what Supervision is and isn't, and how Thirdspace work in this area. Often I don't have the exact words or explanation - but as I've reflected on our recent session, it seems the most clear and illustrative explanation of supervision I can find. I had come to the session with a work conversation on my mind, work that wasn't coaching per se. It wasn't ever going to be an easy conversation, and I'd known that walking in. What surprised me was how frightened and worried I'd felt after the conversation, and it intensified some days after. Even more surprising was the emotion in the re-telling to my group, obviously a far bigger deal than I had been willing to admit. Here's the thing: they could have offered ideas, advice, told me to stop worrying, suggested handling it differently to start with - all useful given the situation - but they offered just listening, deep kindness in being with me and a willingness to stay in the emotion and 'stirred up' ness of if all. For that I am deeply grateful. Their presence and witness allowed me to be with the situation without self judgement and censorship. It isn't resolved nor have I a 'plan' but I left feeling held and cared for, clear about what had happened, and of the value of my intuition. And that's what Supervision is. A place to be held and cared for, where we get to see the complexity and realness of what we do. I think Benjamin Zaphaniah probably says it best in his poem People need People: It’s useful to have other people.
To whom to moan
If you’re all alone,
It’s so hard to share
When no one is there.
There’s not much to do
When there’s no one but you.
People will always need people.
Sending much love, Amanda on behalf of us all at Thirdspace - Amanda, Justin, Lizzie, Neena and Sue
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